Speaking as an Alpha girl, who has had a full life of achievements at just 34-years-old, I worry that my teenagers are, well...lazy. My 13-year-old seems to have a serious lack of ambition. From finishing an art project to completing his homework, he lacks the drive to succeed.
I realize that he is still just a teenager, but I am not talking about not wanting to clean his room. I mean he lacks even the drive to do simple things. Like brush his teeth or take a shower. He just doesn't want to do it.
In my family, we have a fun discussion called, "What can I do when I grow up?" It can be anything we want, silly, serious, or just simple. My daughter want to design clothes and direct a play. My oldest son wants to be a doctor and travel to Japan, My youngest son wants to be Spiderman (he's six). But my 13-year-old just shrugs his shoulders, he has no plan for his future.
He's not interested in anything, and I am worried. I can't figure out how to give him a love for life. And I can't figure out why he is this way.
P.U.R.E. (Parents Universal Resource Experts) gives a few causes for lack of motivation in teenagers:
For resources to help motivate your teen go to
http://www.helpyourteens.com/lack_of_motivation_and_underachievers.html
http://life.familyeducation.com/achievement/teen/48437.html
I realize that he is still just a teenager, but I am not talking about not wanting to clean his room. I mean he lacks even the drive to do simple things. Like brush his teeth or take a shower. He just doesn't want to do it.
In my family, we have a fun discussion called, "What can I do when I grow up?" It can be anything we want, silly, serious, or just simple. My daughter want to design clothes and direct a play. My oldest son wants to be a doctor and travel to Japan, My youngest son wants to be Spiderman (he's six). But my 13-year-old just shrugs his shoulders, he has no plan for his future.
He's not interested in anything, and I am worried. I can't figure out how to give him a love for life. And I can't figure out why he is this way.
P.U.R.E. (Parents Universal Resource Experts) gives a few causes for lack of motivation in teenagers:
- The teens that go to school for their social life, are usually the underachievers and lack motivation for academics. These are students that can do the work, are highly intelligent, but have decided that their friends are more important.
- An underachiever can also be the child that doesn't want to go to school. In some cases they are distracted by emotional issues, or are not challenged enough in school.
- There may also be some learning disabilities not diagnosed. It is wise to have your child tested to see if this could be holding them back academically.
For resources to help motivate your teen go to
http://www.helpyourteens.com/lack_of_motivation_and_underachievers.html
http://life.familyeducation.com/achievement/teen/48437.html
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